Missing Each Other

Ashley and Edward introduce their book, their blog, and themselves

“Only connect!” Those two words, quoted from E.M. Forster’s Howards End, are at the very start of our 2021 book, Missing Each Other: How to Cultivate Meaningful Connections. They eloquently sum up the theme of our book and a major theme of our professional lives. They also serve as a guidepost for each of us personally, as we encounter people in our own daily lives, reminding us of what’s really important.

The Forster quote continues, “Live in fragments no longer.” So many of us seem to “live in fragments,” disconnected from others and from parts of ourselves. Our attention is fragmented and dissipated by the continual demands and busyness of our complex lives in a highly individualistic, commercialized society. Technology consumes much of our time and attention, and mediates so many of our interactions with others, a state of affairs accelerated by the COVID19 pandemic. Internet and social media algorithms can link us electronically by introducing us to potential social media “friends” and even romantic partners, but these algorithms also distract us from live interactions with each other and amplify our polarization and hostility towards each other. Increasingly, we live in our own bubbles, and don’t acquire the practice and comfort many of us once had with real-time human interactions. We easily lose sight of…